My Stress buster!!!

Whenever I feel stressed, I usually read books or  listen to music..Recently I found out that Cooking is also a great stress buster and so my list of stress busters now include cooking, books and music…

I have already written about my cooking experiences here…

My Cooking Stories…

I feel Cooking is a best stress reliever because:

• Cooking is therapeutic and it gives me inner peace and makes me  feel content..
• Cooking for people I love  makes me happy..Appreciation from them  matters to me a lot..
• Common activities while cooking like chopping, cutting,kneading,etc helps to divert my attention from stress and it is an outlet to vent out my frustrations…
• It increases my creativity  and imagination skills ..I feel like a creator and I am relaxing & enjoying myself while cooking..
• It helps me to  shift my focus from my problems to following the recipes  at least for some time..

So, What are your Stress busters?? I would love to know about them..

 

This & That – 1

• I went to Tirupathi recently .. I walked from Alipiri and reached Tirumala within 3.5 hours ..I prefer walking every year and by God’s grace have done the same for last 5 years..
• I had a very good dharsan of Lord Venkateswara and waiting time was around 2 hours..I  am very much attracted towards this God and  even a glimpse of him makes me happy…
• Have enrolled myself in a  lending library near my house and I am enjoying reading books by cecelia ahern, Danielle Steel, Nora Roberts, Jeffrey Archer,etc..Books & I  are always inseperable..
• Celebrated Krishna Jayanthi and prepared Vella Seedai, Uppu Seedai, Paal Payasam,Murukku, Sweet Appam..All turned out yummy and I am so happy !!!

“She” Series – 5

She still remembers the day  when she got her first periods..

Her eighth standard annual examinations was over and all her friends had already left the village for their holidays and she was planning to go for her cousin’s place the next day along with her mother..

As She was bored, she hired a bicycle for around 3 hours and was cycling around..After 2.5 hours, she had stomach ache and started feeling uneasy..So she returned her hired bicycle and came back home and informed her mother..It was a new experience for her as she didn’t even know about periods.. Her mother explained her about the same..She felt very bad as her holiday plan to cousin’s place was cancelled due to this…

She was in a village where people usually convert this personal thing to a much celebrated public function..She was very much shocked as many people started visiting her..She really couldn’t cope up with both this embarrassment and also her physical pain together..

Everything was new to her and everybody started advising her that she shouldn’t roam around like earlier and should start behaving like a girl hereafter…

She was made to sit separately for those three days and wasn’t allowed to go outside..She was so angry and she wanted to scream that she wished to play with her friends..

After those 3 days, again a big function was conducted in her home..She was asked to sit in a chair for hours…She hated all these and her Grandma told that function was very important…

She was feeling different when she started going school after holidays…Her friends circle which consisted of both boys and girls earlier suddenly transformed to only girls!!!! She couldn’t really understand why some boys felt shy to talk with her and she was also advised not to talk with boys…

First it was weird and then she slowly understood that these are the changes that happened after her first periods..

She didn’t like this much hype created for her first periods and she still feels bad that she didn’t have guts to oppose the way she was treated earlier during her periods..She still regrets that she was born in a time where the first Periods was treated like a Public function..

When she was studying in college, she was firm that she will not sit separately during her periods in house..She faced many difficulties due to this but finally she convinced her family…This was her first victory and she was clear in what she wanted in life…

My Life…

A  best story  attracts many readers if it is different from usual stories which have a predictable climax..Readers usually like nail biting sequences which makes them involve more with the story and  then they start liking the author..

I feel that my Life is also a story and all sequences are written already and God is the author of my story (I believe in God)..

But still , I have felt at different stages of  my life that why certain things happened  and why I couldn’t stop or alter the same…

If I am the Writer of my own story – My Life – and If I am given the choice to  change something, I will do the below:

I’d  have said “NO” Whenever I feel like saying it

From my childhood days, I usually say yes to whatever my family or friends say/demand from me..Many times, I don’t like to accept certain things, but still I accepted the same, as I was afraid that I might hurt them.. I studied the course chosen by my Dad..I could have said “No” to Dad, but I didn’t do the same as it could have hurted him..Except for my close family and close friends, others took advantage of this..I am ashamed that I didn’t have courage to say “No” earlier and I want to alter the same If I am the writer of my life…

I’d be less adjusting and I’d pamper myself

I spent more days in hostel for my studies and so I became more adjustable in nature..Even after my hostel days, I usually didn’t ask for anything even in my home and adjusted according to situations…I love gifting others and usually spend more money for others..But if I think of buying something for me, I suddenly turn in to a miser ..I think deeply before spending money for myself..If I am the writer of my life, I’d change to a less adjusting individual and will pamper myself with whatever I wish..

I’d be less bothered about others’ opinion

I have made some decisions in my life as I feared others’ might not like if I do something different from normal..I was afraid of the society..I didn’t have guts to oppose certain stereotypical things…If I am the writer of my life, I would be less bothered about others and will live my life as I wish…

I’d be less sensitive and less possessive

I am very much sensitive in nature.. I easily allow others to affect me and I usually get more angry.. I am also very much possessive..If I am the writer of my life, I’d be less sensitive and less possessive..

I’d express myself

I don’t express myself even to my close family and friends ..I love them to the core, but have never told them.. I am not the type who regularly calls or send messages to them..They sometimes feel that I don’t like them and have no love or affection for them, which is not true…If I am the writer of my life, I’d  express myself clearly to others..

I’d try to  forgive and forget 

I usually believe others..If they betray me, I have a habit of not forgiving them and also not forgetting those incidents ..I don’t shout at them but I simply ignore them..This affects my relationship with others..If I am the writer of my life, I’d try to forgive and forget..

I am  also sure that God is the best author when compared to myself and I believe that all sequences in my life is already  written by God.. I have to accept the fact that whatever happens in life, it happens for a reason!!!!

Technology & Relationships..

Earlier…

When I was young, I had a habit of sending  greeting card to my family members and friends for their birthdays and for New year, Diwali, etc ..I still remember maintaining a small diary containing the important dates and then visiting a small shop every month to buy the greeting cards and then sending to their address..I was happy when they called me on landline phone and thanked me for sending the same..After some years, I started sending them E-Cards…

Now…

I usually wish them on Facebook and whats app..

Yes, I have changed  and I am using technology to connect with people easier and faster…

But whether I really enjoy this is a question I am asking myself??

Earlier, I had put some efforts in remembering the days, choosing a physical greeting card, writing my wishes and then sending it..Now I don’t  have to remember the days ..I have Facebook which notifies me their birthdays and I can always wish them through it and also through whats app..

I feel  that technology like Facebook, Whats app, helps in building relationships when it is used in a correct manner..

It helps  in connecting us with many people in all parts of the world..It is a boon for people who are in long distance relationships..It helps in reducing their loneliness and makes them feel to be close with persons whom they love and miss..

Whenever we over consume  technology, it genuinely destroys our relationships..

Nowadays in many houses, Some of the family members are connected more only  with people  who are outside their home!!!

They really don’t spend time with people who are physically present with them..Even while eating, they are just involved with their smart phones rather than having conversation with their close family..They are drowned in their own world  and  this definitely over a period of time destroys  their relationships…

Whenever some people see the photos of  exotic vacations uploaded by their friends or family in Facebook or whats app, they feel jealous and also insecure..Whenever a husband/wife is more involved with latest technology, it really makes the other partner possessive!!!

I think it is high time that we start speaking “What’s on our mind?? ” first with our close family, friends and their true likes and comments will help us building good relationships in future…