Why I feel that Oviya in Bigg Boss Tamil is being Overrated???

(Disclaimer: Everyone is entitled to have an opinion and this post is about my views..If you are a hardcore Oviya fan, please don’t read this as you may not like it..If you are ready to acknowledge flaws in the person you love, then you can continue reading..)

#SaveOviya – If you are regularly watching Bigg Boss Tamil Show in Vijay Tv, then you would definitely understand the above mentioned famous hashtag in twitter..

First question which came to my mind is, Oviya has to be saved from whom??  from terrorists or aliens ???.. Ok, jokes apart, I think it is just a game show and here all the contestants wants to be the winner..Whether it is right or wrong, there will be cut throat competition here..The person who manages all this in a graceful and strong way deserves to be the winner!!!

I want to be clear in my point – I watch this show and I am neither a fan nor a hater of anyone in this.. As we know, people are different and so are the ones who participate in this show..Everyone has their plus and minus and majority of us tend to ignore the minuses in the person we like..

Ok, let me start what I think about Oviya…As of now, I am neutral in my opinion – I don’t like her the way everybody is crazy about her and I don’t hate her either..

When I started watching this show, I liked the way she was dancing for a day or two..But when it happened everyday, I felt bored (OK, may be I am differently wired)..I feel that she is not a good team player – There may be both good and bad people in a team, but it is very vital to participate in a team and its activities…In this kind of show, it is very important to mingle with others..Yes, few will try to irritate her, but she should be strong enough to manage them in an effective manner..

I feel this show became interesting when someone tries to play the victim card and they get support from people..Many of the so-called Oviya fans are criticizing other contestants in public platform in a very bad manner..I accept they are entitled to express but not in indecent way and it is now becoming more  bad personal attacks which can never be justified..

Majority of us tell lies, get angry and even gossip about others in our life – Will we accept that we belong to worst kind of human beings ?? Never ..But we expect those contestants to be perfect epitome of humanity and we criticize them badly if they don’t meet our expectations..

Consider this situation – In our life, we may blindly like or love a particular person in our family or a friend..We don’t mind their flaws/mistakes and continue liking them..I think this is what happening in Oviya’s case..

I feel she is OK but not THE BEST, as majority of people think…She is more interested about herself and she stays aloof  and is not a team player..I like that she doesn’t gossips about others as of now and I appreciate her for this – But we have to accept the fact that as it is a competitive show, others would definitely trigger her and she has to manage to survive and win – I am not justifying others’ behavior, but we all know that it is tend to happen..

Using bad words or trying to hit others can never be justified or glorified in any situation – According to me, Whoever does this, including Oviya, they are wrong and  nobody can escape saying that I got angry as the other person triggered me and so I uttered bad words or tried to hit..

Majority of us have this bad habit  – We perceive some people to be very bad and if they make mistakes, then we consider it as a SIN and portray them as very bad villains..But if the same mistake is done by people we like, we consider their act to be heroic and brave and even congratulate them...I still wonder how a previous blunder can suddenly become right!!!

I wish to reiterate that I don’t hate Oviya, but till now, I feel that She is being Overrated by people and I am not sure whether She deserves it!!!

I know my opinion may differ from others, but this is what I feel and  Whether I am  right or wrong ??? I think it is too early to answer and we have to wait and watch!!!

Indu, Please come back!!! #defeatingdeathforaday

When I was browsing  through Indiblogger website, I saw  the below topic for Indispire this week:

If you could bring back someone from the other side of the rainbow bridge for just one day, would you do that?#defeatingdeathforaday

First person who came to my mind is the one whom I have never met in my life..

I haven’t seen her, spoken with her and she is not my  friend or relative..But still she was the one who made me cry a lot on hearing the news of her sudden death due to bursting of gas cylinder before sixteen years..

Her name is Indumathi*** and she was around 22 years old when she left this world..

I  met Uma***, younger sister of Indumathi, on the first day of my college life in my hostel room..I still remember Uma crying a lot as it was the first time she was away from her family – Her father was working in a small company, her mother a house wife and her elder sister who had got married before eight months…

We both became friends and she used to share a lot with me about her family and particularly about her sister Indu..I learnt from her that Indu was a caring, intelligent and a very good person who always used to help others..Uma said that Indu was living in another city along with her husband and In-laws..

After first semester holidays, when I met Uma in our hostel room, she was crying..I thought it was due to home-sickness and consoled her – But she said that she was very much worried about Indu as she was not happy in her married life – Her husband and inlaws tortured her daily for more dowry..Uma said that as her father was already in huge debt due to Indu’s marraige, it was not possible to provide more..

During our holidays, Indu had come to her home and met her parents and uma..She was crying a lot that she couldn’t live in her husband’s house as she was facing both physical and mental abuse from them..She told them that she will never go to their house – Her parents were shocked and had advised her that she has to adjust in her life and be patient..Her father pleaded with her that he is having another younger daughter and her life would be spoiled if Indu gets separated from her husband..Uma got angry and she had told her father that Indu need not go back to the place where she was not respected..But her father scolded her back and asked her to be quiet..Indu had no option and finally left to her husband’s home accompanied by her father..As expected, her father was treated badly by her in-laws and  Indu cried a lot and her father advised her to adjust and returned to his home..Uma was sad that Indu’s life was not good and I consoled her..

I still remember that ill-fated day when Uma was called during a middle of a class to Principal’s room – Her  parents had informed Principal that Indu had died due to gas cylinder burst and  Uma’s distant brother had come to pick her up from hostel..Uma was inconsolable beyond words and left ..

Uma came back to college after a month and I could feel her pain..Her parents were grief stricken and were guilty that they had killed their own daughter..Her father had complained to Police that it was not an accident ..Uma said that Case had been filed and investigation was going on..But she was doubtful about the outcome, as Indu’s husband’s family had many influential contacts and they were involved in the case.. We both completed our under graduation and were writing letters to each other for one or two years..But after that, we lost touch…

After many years, I recently got a message from Uma..I was surprised and called her and talked a lot..She is working now and said that her husband is a very nice person..She told that her parents live along with her and she invited me to her house..I went and met her and we had a good time..Her parents remembered me and we started talking about Indu..Her father told me that he had committed a big blunder and he felt that he had killed his own daughter..They started crying and was inconsolable…Uma told me that all of them couldn’t come out of that sad incident even after many years..Their guiltyness was killing them and they still feel bad for sending Indu back to her husband earlier..I started from her home with a heavy heart..

I could understand their pain and their guilty feeling..Her father was afraid to go against the society and her mother asked her to adjust..But they finally lost their dear daugher..

If I could bring back someone alive for just one day, I would definitely bring back Indumathi…Her Parents would tell her how much they miss her and love her..They would ask her to forgive them and how much pain they are facing due to the blunder they committed..Uma would hug her loving and caring sister and cry a lot..

I would be really happy if I could defeat death for a day and bring back Indumathi to her family… It is never ever possible..But, I am sure Indumathi lives in their heart forever…

(***Note: It is a real incident but I have changed names to protect identity)

The day I left my Native Place…

It was my last day in the city where I grew up and I still can’t believe that I am leaving this place which is very close to my heart..

I have completed my MBA and was in my hometown for last 10 days..But when time came to leave for Chennai in search of a job, I felt numb..I had been in hostel for many years, but I usually visit my place twice in a month..I wasn’t sure whether frequent visits are possible in future..

I had a weird feeling which can’t be described very easily..I know my future life will be based out of Chennai as my small town didn’t have many job opportunities for me..I was excited when I think of my future but sad when I thought of leaving my hometown..

I enjoyed a lot in those ten days before leaving my place..I visited nook and corner of my town – Each place had many sweet memories for me and it was like revisiting my past..I woke up early and went to water falls near my town and as usual, I was mesmerized by its beauty.. I took my old bicycle and visited many of my friends’ houses and most of the time I wasn’t in my home..Many of our houses had interconnecting terraces and so it was fun jumping from one terrace to other and shouting a lot..I knew many people there and I was visiting their houses to bid goodbye and it was a really good feeling when you realize that they care for you a lot and they don’t expect anything from you in return..

I didn’t think more about my future job in those 10 days and all I thought was how to enjoy to the core..I knew that these sweet memories will be in my mind forever…

Finally, it was last day in my city, and I had a train to catch that night..My family and close friends came along with me to railway station and I started to Chennai..I didn’t cry as I didn’t want to make them upset but I didn’t sleep well in train that night..I was both excited and sad and worried when I thought of my future life..

I got selected in my first interview in Chennai and my life moved on…Yes, initially I found it to be somewhat difficult but I adapted myself to live here..I still can’t believe that it is more than 12 years that I left my home town..I visit my native place once in a year and I always enjoy my peaceful stay there a lot..My hometown had changed a lot but still I feel it hasn’t lost its charm and it will always remain beautiful in my eyes!!!

‘This post is a part of Write Over the Weekend, an initiative for Indian Bloggers by BlogAdda.’

How to apply for Passport online??

I still remember that day before 10 years when my father asked me to apply for a Passport. I didn’t apply as I was lazy to the core..

Last month, I suddenly got this desire to apply for a fresh passport..I knew that Passport can be applied through online and so started the process of applying the same..

I browsed through their website( https://portal2.passportindia.gov.in) and all instructions are very clearly given here..I read about the documents needed for issuance of fresh passport and other details required..

Applying through online for passport is not difficult, but still I wish to explain step by step so that it may be helpful for others..

• First step is to register ourselves in the  New user? Register Now section in above mentioned website..Passport office has to be selected and other details like name, date of birth, mail id are to be filled..After registering successfully, we will have a new login id and password..
• We have to enter our login id and password in Existing User? Login ..Then click on Apply for a fresh passport/reissue of passport link and start filling details..There are 2 options – We can download the soft copy of the form, fill and upload the same or We can fill the application form online..I opted for filling the application online..
• After selecting the type of application as normal/tatkaal and type of passport booklet, Applicant details like name, surname,DOB, Place of birth, gender,marital status,educational qualification, eligibility for Non-ECR Category and other details are to be filled..It is self explanatory.
• Then we have to enter our Family details in the online application and then we have to enter our present residential address details..There is a limit to number of characters that can be typed in the address box..So, we have to mention the address correctly and carefully..If our permanent address is different from our present address, it has to be mentioned separately.Then, we have to select the police station in our area and also fill our details like mobile/telephone number, email id, etc..We have to provide name and address of two persons as our references for passport issuance.
• Then we have to fill Emergency contact details and self declaration details..
• After filling the form fully, we have to submit the same and then we have to schedule appointment at Passport office for application submission..We have to select a date from available dates and then pay Rs.1500 for the same..I paid the fee through online and payment was successful..
• We also can upload supporting documents which I think is not mandatory and is optional..However, I scanned and attached the same..
• After completing everything, we can take printouts of Online Appointment Receipt in which appointment date and time and other details are clearly mentioned..

( Note: There is an Instructions Booklet in their website which clears many of our doubts.. Please go through the same before starting to fill the application online.. Documents required are mentioned in elaborate manner..There is also an option to Save details while filling the form online)

Overall, I feel that filling application for passport online is very easy provided we read the instructions carefully..I read about documents required and other instructions fully before starting to fill online.

After filling form online, we have to visit the passport office directly as per our scheduled appointment to submit the documents..

I would write about my experience in Passport Office in my next post.

How to Declutter My Mind???

Meaning of the word “Declutter” as per dictionary is:

“to remove things you do not need from a place, in order to make it more pleasant and more useful”

How often do we declutter our houses?? What makes us or prompts us to keep our house clean?? Each one of us have our own views on keeping our house clean..We may be lethargic and keep on postponing this main task for many days..Finally, one fine day, we decide that enough is enough and we start decluttering..We realize that we have many unwanted and useless things and we are confused on what to do with them..At the end, we throw them away..We are now happy and proud to see a sparkling clean house..A big task completed !!!! Isn’t it???

Many of us are stressed and worried about something in our life – Magnitude of worries may differ among us, but we can’t deny the fact that we are stressed about something..We think a lot and everything is stored in our mind..We try hard to be calm, but couldn’t achieve the same many times..Now I have a question to myself and also to others who read this:

Have we ever thought of decluttering our minds???

To be honest, I haven’t thought of the same till now..Life teaches us many lessons and we learn by both good and bad experiences..Yes, life slapped me very hard and now I am forced to come out of negativeness sorrounding me..Is it possible to come out of mental pain which is caused by untrustworthy people ?? I really don’t know the answer till now but I believe I should try to declutter certain thoughts from my mind to be happy..I am not sure whether I will suceed or not, but I feel it is worth trying.

After searching more about decluttering our minds, I have following thoughts which I think will help me in succeeding in my effort..They are:

• First,throw away: I have to throw away unwanted thoughts from my mind – I know it is not a easy task..I accept that certain pains are difficult to let go..But If I want to get mental peace, this is the first step which should be tried..I am sensitive in nature and I know I can’t forgive those people nor forget what they did to me, but I can throw them away from my mind..Throwing unwanted thoughts is the first step needed for decluttering my mind.
• Express yourself: Writing what I feel in my journal/diary or in this blog certainly helps me a lot..It makes me to accept the fact that as my mind is cluttered, I become restless and unfocussed..I get this urge to help myself to clean my mind and try to be happy.
• Don’t multitask: I have to concentrate on one thing at a time and shouldn’t multi task..If I am decluttering my house, I would first concentrate on one particular place which I feel is more dirty..I would complete cleaning that place first and move on to the next..Just like that, I have to pick on a specific issue which I feel is bad for my mental health and try to come out of that..After completion of that, I should move on to the next.
• Reframe negative thoughts: Many of us primarily worry about what had happened in the past and what is going to happen in future..We can’t change the past, but having a positive approach helps to face our future with a smile..I have a bad habit of negative thinking and I feel that it is high time to stop it.
• Be grateful: Many thoughts in our mind is usually about the things that we don’t have and we yearn for the same a lot..I feel that I have to start practicing gratitude in my life..Being grateful plays an important role in keeping our mind in peace.
• Learn to say “NO”:  This is the most vital ingredient for our mental peace..I have to start saying “No” to certain people and shouldn’t do anything which I feel like not doing..If I practice this, then clutter in my mind will reduce to some extent.

(Courtesy: Google images)

So, What are your thoughts on decluttering our minds???

Book Review 6 – “Just as it Happened” – by Kadambari Singh #BlogChatterEbookCarnival

I am reviewing the following book:

“Just as it Happened” – by Ms.Kadambari Singh 

About the Book:

This is a love story which revolves around the life of two different people Meer and Meera.

About the Author:

Ms.Kadambari Singh is a management graduate, passionate marketing professional and loves to write..

My thoughts on this book:

Meer is a young IT professional and he meets Meera, a independent, sorted girl. They meet by chance and fell in love with each other. Whether they are able to get united in their life forms the rest of the story. Author had explained about their relationship and their thoughts on love in this story. I personally liked the character Meera more when compared to Meer.

Overall, I feel this story is a light read.

Mesmerizing Nainital – #TimeToRevisit…

I believe that travelling rejuvenates both our body and mind..A break from our monotonous routine life gives us strength to move on in life..I love to travel and there are some places which attract us with its beauty and makes us to wish that we have to revisit that place again and enjoy a lot..

I am now reminded of our tour to Nainital in June 2016..I  feel that it is  #TimeToRevisit Nainital again..

We were planning for a short trip for 4 days last year and started looking for hill stations outside Tamilnadu..We finally zeroed in Nainital and booked a 3 nights 4 days package with Make my trip covering both Nainital and Corbett.

This tour was special for us and we were excited because:

• We visited North India for the first time
• We  were first time flyers – from Chennai to New Delhi and vice versa
• I was able to test my Hindi speaking skills..Though I understand Hindi and watch movies, I haven’t got more chances in Chennai to speak in Hindi..I was thrilled as I have to translate to my husband as he doesn’t know the language..

Day 1:

We were picked by a driver at New Delhi airport and after having breakfast at Hotel Saravana Bhavan in Delhi, we started our six hour journey to Nainital.

We were excited as we are going to cross Delhi, Noida in Uttarpradesh state and finally reach Nainital in Uttarkhand state..

After having lunch at Bikanerwala hotel at Gajraula,we travelled through national highways and finally started climbing hills..

Photos that I clicked from car while traveling:

We reached Nainital around 5’o clock in evening and we stayed in Bhavanipur Greens, a Sterling Holidays resort..We travelled for half an hour to reach this resort from Nainital..We were happy as the scenic view was awesome and our room was good and we had a nice balcony and view from it was so mesmerizing:

We bought some candles from Uttarkhand Government shop which had candles, handicrafts and organic sarees..After dinner in our resort, we went for a walk around hotel and finally slept.

Day 2:

We started our sightseeing around 9’o clock and we visited Bara Pathar – We enjoyed horse riding for around 1.5 hours up the hills and saw Tiffin top (Dorothy’s seat), Naina Peak, Suicide point,etc..

Then we went to Eco cave gardens – The place was very cool and beautiful..

We visited the famous Naina devi temple, which was very beautiful and also crowded..

We saw a nice view of Nainital lake from temple and we skipped boating as we weren’t interested..

We roamed around the famous mall road and had lunch at Chandni Chowk hotel..Then we shopped in Mall road and purchased candles and other items..We had dinner in our hotel and our day 2 of the tour got over..

Day 3:

We checked out of hotel in Nainital and started our journey to Jim Corbett National Park..

On our way, we saw a hill view point, Khurpa Taal, a lake which changes colour according to season and also a small waterfall which was beautiful..

We reached Corbett and after lunch, we hired a jeep for our 3.5 hours Jeep safari..Though we saw only deers, monkeys and no tigers, journey inside a dense forest was awesome..

We visited a 100 years old Site devi temple and finally reached Corbet – Treetop Riverview, a Sterling Holidays resort which is around 20 km away from Corbett and is located in a hill..Room was nice with all facilities.. After dinner, we took rest..

Day 4:

We checked out of our hotel and started our journey to New Delhi..On the way, we visited Corbett Museum..

We reached Delhi airport and came back to Chennai finally..

I would like to revisit Nainital for its mesmerizing nature..Though it is crowded, I enjoyed a lot..We stayed in hotel away from busy Mall road and we enjoyed a lot..

Though our Vacation was a short one, I am sure it is a memorable and a special vacation for us and I would like to revisit Nainital again.

A Brave Woman’s Story…

It was an ordinary afternoon when I received a phone call from my mother..She was excited while talking and I couldn’t understand first..After calming her down, I got the following news:

 Sita aunty had got married last week at a registrar office !!!! 

My Amma said that her marriage is the recent news in my native place and everyone is surprised and shocked..

OK, Sita aunty, a distant relative of mine, is a 54 years old, divorced woman and she had married a widower around 60 years old..

I phoned her immediately and conveyed my wishes!!! She spoke with me in detail about her marriage and was worried that her own sisters hated her as she had got married at this age..I told her that it is high time that she stopped thinking about others and I asked her to enjoy her life.. 

After I disconnected the call, I was reminded of  struggles Sita aunty faced in her life..

“You get out of my house immediately..I don’t want to see your face again”

Shyam yelled at his wife Sita for ‘n’ th time and she started crying..Her mother in law as usual added fuel to fire by blaming Sita for her inability to conceive even after 5 years of marriage..Sita, as usual, kept quiet and pleaded with her husband not to send her out and requested him to forgive her (for no fault of hers)

When Sita was married in 1981,her mother adviced her that she has to adjust in her husband’s family and she has to do whatever her husband says. Sita, being the elder daughter with 2 younger sisters, couldn’t continue her studies after 12 th standard and was married to Shyam, who worked in a nationalized bank as a clerk..

Sita was quite happy in first year of her marriage..Shyam was kind earlier but after some years, started showing his true colours..He blamed her for whatever happened and started abusing her badly, both physically and emotionally..Her MIL also wasn’t happy due to small amount of dowry provided by Sita’s father.

Sita beared everything patiently and believed that her husband would change soon..She didn’t want to add burden to her father and hence she adjusted everything…

  Her husband was out of station for a week and her MIL also went to her native place..Sita was alone in her house without knowing that her life was going to change forever…

She was shocked to the core when she saw a woman who came to house along with  her husband  and MIL after a week..Her husband introduced her as his newly wedded wife..Sita was grief stricken and her husband told her that he hated her to the core..He added that she could never be a wife to him and she could only be a servant maid in his house..

Sita was angry beyond words  and she came to her father’s house after 6 years of bad marriage and she later divorced her husband..She started going for a small job and got her UG degree through distance education..She also studied Hindi language and passed all exams..She loved studying and got many degrees..She started taking Hindi tuitions and also became a teacher in a school in my native place..

Her family totally depended on her and she took care of her 2 younger sisters well and got them married…

After her divorce, there was a big change in her..She became strong and proved that she could handle all the problems with ease. 

She was living alone for several years after death of her parents and finally she had married a gentleman who loves her truly..

I feel so happy for Sita aunty…She had faced various criticisms after her divorce..She was brave enough not to listen to those and she concentrated on her life and achieved her dreams.It is true that bad situations in life makes a person to fight against all odds and emerge as a winner.

Some people commented on her marriage at this age..I told them that it is none of their business and getting married is her personal decision.I feel that age doesn’t matter, Isn’t it ???

Sita aunty had faced many difficulties in life and I sincerely pray God that she feels and stays happy in her future life.

Book review 5 – “26 Words -A to Z of short stories” – by Smita Pal Sinha #BlogChatterEbookCarnival

I am reviewing the following book:

“26 WORDS – A to Z of Short Stories” by Ms.Smita Pal Sinha

About the Book:

This book is a collection of 26 short stories on topics of  various social issues..Each story revolves around a word which starts with a letter of the alphabet and a social issue which also begins with the same letter.

About the Author:

Ms.Smita Pal Sinha is a working mother who loves to write, cook, paint, read and do a lot many other things…

She blogs at http://www.theaveragemom.in

My thoughts on this book:

I would first like to congratulate the author for writing these stories about different social issues and also making it very much interesting to read..

I liked all the stories and it was not boring and not preachy in nature..The message about awareness on social causes are depicted very clearly along with the story line  and I feel that the writing style of the author is brilliant..

I liked the following stories in no particular order – About education, Dowry, Child abuse, domestic violence,female foeticide, gender discrimination, sexual harassment at work place, Infertility, Child labour, Maternity leave, kid’s pressure,story of a survivor,story of an orphan child, story of an unequal pay, story about Judgement, story on racial discrimination and story of unmatched zodiacs…

Overall, I personally feel that this Ebook is awesome to read and I  would also recommend the same to others as I totally enjoyed reading the same.

Will you please forgive me??? #ALetterToHer

My dear Aunty,

How are you?? I doubt whether you remember me, a little girl, who was your neighbour before 25 years.. I still remember you, to be honest, I think my guilt feeling towards you will never let me forget you forever..

I have done many mistakes in my life till now..But what I did to you was a big blunder..I realized the enormity of the situation only when I grew up..

I still remember the fateful day when I visited your home after my school to play with your 2 year old  daughter..Your husband came home at that time and he was shouting at you…I don’t remember what he was saying but I can never forget when he suddenly started beating you.I stopped playing and was both shocked and afraid…He started hitting you with his belt..You were crying unable to bear the pain and your daughter also started to cry..I was just standing there not knowing what to do..He didn’t stop beating you and I ran away from your house immediately..

When I told my mother regarding this, she told me that I was too young to understand this and I don’t have any rights to interfere in others’ personal life. .
I was very young at that time and didn’t understand anything..But when I grew up, I realized the blunder that I have done..I was a mere spectator to a domestic violence and I am still ashamed..I should have stopped him beating you..Will you be able to forgive me aunty for this???

Earlier I can’t understand why you were living patiently with such a husband..But when I grew up, I realized that this is the curse some of women are facing and they readily forgive their husbands for their sins and mistakes..They adjust everything for the sake of living with their husbands…

Aunty, Why didn’t you hit him back?? Then only he would have realized the pain and how wrong his activities were..

Aunty, do you know that the abuse against women haven’t reduced even now in 2017?? Yes, we women are now more educated, employed and independent when compared to earlier years..But still it happens…

Let me tell you about my friend – She is highly qualified and works in a reputed concern with a very good salary…She is sincere,honest, kind and admired in office by everyone..I met her recently and she looked very sad..When I asked her,she said that she couldn’t make her husband happy and he always blames and criticizes her activities..She told me about various incidents where her husband had verbally threatened her, made fun/insulted her in front of others and blamed her for every bad thing that happens in their life..She was depressed to the core.

I really don’t like to advise others,but I felt that I have to do so…I told her that for a happy married life, there should be mutual adjustment and not only by her..I added that her efforts in making her husband happy should be reciprocated by her husband too..I made her understand that she is going through mental abuse and it is high time that she comes out of the abuse..I asked her to speak and explain to her husband regarding her true feelings. She listened carefully and said that she will do the needful..

Aunty, I couldn’t stop you from being physically abused, but I have tried my level best to stop the mental abuse that my friend is going through..

 I strongly feel that this mental or emotional abuse also affects us along with physical abuse…Main problem is that many women don’t understand that they are going through this mental abuse..It is very sad to know, isn’t it ???

We have to be strong enough to fight against both physical violence and mental,emotional abuse..It is high time that we teach our future generation how to treat others with due respect…

Note : I would like to read the book When I Hit You  by Meena Kandasamy – This book  is about an abusive marriage and explains about both physical violence and emotional abuse. Domestic violence is no longer that dirty little secret that we will hush up.